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 Thursday, May 17, 2012 | 26 Jumada al-Thani 1433
Virginity devices
A woman’s burden of proof
A new "virginity device" sold from China and marketed to Muslims in Egypt and elsewhere has conservative clerics up in arms. But what should be discussed is the hypocrisy that burdens women with proof of virginity while the men involved are ignored. Because of this, thousands of widows, divorcees and rape victims in countries like Pakistan and Saudi Arabia are forced to live lives at the very margins of social acceptability.
Conservative clerics in Egypt are in a conundrum. A new device sold by a Chinese company threatens to make every Egyptian woman who uses it, a virgin. The “Artificial Virginity Hymen Kit” distributed by Gigimo costs about $30.00 is intended to help newly married women fool their husbands into believing that they are virgins by producing a small amount of blood like substance during intercourse.

The controversy began when a reporter from a Dutch radio station broadcast an Arabic translation of the Chinese advertisement for the product. Conservative members of the Muslim Brotherhood in Egypt’s Parliament have since asked for a ban on the device. Prominent Egyptian scholar Abdel Moati Bayoumi said anyone who imports the device should be punished saying “This product encourages illicit sexual relations, Islamic culture forbids these relations except within the confines of marriage,” Bayoumi said.

The controversy over virginity and the newly provided ability to fake it, hits at the center of questions regarding the status of women in much of the Muslim world. Questions regarding female purity hold a crucial position in evaluating the worth of a woman and negotiating marriage contracts. In Egypt itself, thousands of women undergo hymen reconstruction surgery every year in order to fulfill preconditions of virginity for marriage and to avoid bringing shame to families.

The practice of hymen reconstruction surgery has migrated with Arab populations to European countries like France where young Muslim women may undergo the half hour surgery for a cost of about €2000 ($3,000). Others choose to go back to countries like Tunisia where they can get the surgery at lower cost. The surgery is legal in the European Union as well as in the United States where it falls in the category of elective surgery. While surgery itself is less common in Pakistan, women are routinely abused tortured and even killed if they are found not to be virgins upon being wed. In several cases, young brides have been known to commit suicide rather than risk bringing shame to their families.

The issue of whether virginity constitutes the total worth of a woman upon marriage (rendering her otherwise unmarriageable) was dealt with recently in a courtroom in the French city of Lille where the judge initially ruled that a marriage between a Muslim man and a woman could be annulled because the bride had lied about her virginity. A French appeals court then took up the issue of whether virginity was “an essential quality of a woman” and ended up reversing the previous decision that had decreed lying about virginity to be a grounds for fraud that would justify annulment. Of course, the outcome of the case would have been markedly different under Islamic law where deception regarding the virginity of the bride would result both in an annulment of the marriage and a repudiation of the dower.

Expectedly, as the news clips from Egypt amply illustrate, much of the clerical debate over the device has focused on the fact that it allows women to fake and flout the theological precept prescribing a prohibition on extra marital sexual relations. No argument is provided of the fact that the male involved may also have come to the marriage without proof of virginity which is equally theologically culpable but less easily verified. The assumption is that women’s virginity must necessarily be verifiable hence necessitating the ban on the Chinese virginity gadget while male virginity can conveniently be glossed over. Equally sexist are attempts to justify the concern over women’s virginity as one motivated by insuring the sexual purity of society in general since it ignores the reality that every extra marital sexual act involves by definition two parties, one male and one female which are both equally responsible for their actions.

The fact is, in Egypt, Pakistan and in a majority of Muslim countries the onus of protecting a society’s delusions of purity and piety are placed solely and singularly on the shoulders of women. In insuring that virgins are venerated and non-virgins vilified social constructions of good and bad women are enforced in a society where the value of a woman is little else than her ability to breed sons, please her husband and be a good housekeeper. The myth that is continually forwarded is that all those women who are not virgins are somehow dirty, impure and unworthy of marriage. No consideration is given to the fact that the majority of these women may be widows, divorcees or victims of sexual assault. In other words, male complicity in reducing women to non-virgin status is completely ignored in the whole discussion.

Because of this, thousands of widows, divorcees and rape victims in countries like Pakistan and Saudi Arabia are forced to live lives at the very margins of social acceptability. Not only can they not expect to be married again but they are further dealt the burden of being somehow morally compromised simply because they are no longer the pure virgins venerated as brides. Examples from Islamic history that suggest otherwise. For instance, the notable fact that the first marriage of the Prophet (pbuh) was to a non-virgin are given short shrift and virtually ignored.

It is interesting indeed, that the device in question that provides Muslim women with some semblance of empowerment against the strictures of proving their purity is being sold from China. Indeed, it brings to focus the vast disparity between nations like China, who have put their women to work and hence harnessed 51% of an unused labor force to become a manufacturing super power and countries like Pakistan and Egypt who are still squabbling over inanities that necessitate a device like the Artificial Hymen Kit. While Chinese women work to produce anything that sells and raise their country to new heights as an emerging power; Muslim women remain embroiled in proving that their worth is more than just their virginity.

Rafia Zakaria is Associate Editor of altmuslim.com.


Thanks Fester! I'm doin' the best I can to get that puppy ready for prime time.


Fester >>> While I don't personally endorse this business, the women in these films almost universally perform in them of their own free will, finding the very good money they make to be preferable to other forms of work.

Just like your comment towards the home schooling, which you practically retracted by saying a 10% minority makes Americans runs for the hills, you're missing the big picture here. The culture of most traditional muslim societies face an onslaught of untested technology, free-marketeering and their own lack of capacity to legislate. The result is a diminished culture in a world increasingly globalised by liberal values, and that are actually not being monitored for their impact.

Sarah3 >>> btw, not all women bleed their first time, for many different reasons. how that has become the standard measurement is beyond me, and I shudder to think about how virgins who didn't bleed were/are treated.

Agreed. The actual biology is misunderstood. And the device may actually help allay alot of issues. Like I've said, the moral conservatism of Muslim countries isn't necessarily laced with misogynism. I believe that to a large extent, Muslims genuinely want to maintain the traditional values of modesty, male-female decorum and marital sanctity.

But the obvious flaw in your whole analysis of emasculated men, is that the corollary are women who feminised (if that word's right). i.e. That a womens sexual liberation makes her more womanly, and that a more assertive woman emasculates a man. I mean the whole notion is combative and destructive. And its marked by Festers comment that women in the porn industry are in it out of choice! When the whole world knows that the industry is exploitative and damaging in the medium to long term to most who participate. The statistics on child users of porn are even more disturbing.

You think a conservative father thinks of his daughter as his son-in-laws sex object? His daughter is an emotional runt for his being emasculated in the world? There is no real world or balanced analysis of what generates this type of response by people. The men are all misogynists. The women are all oppressed by a humiliating and backward culture. How many Egyptians do you guys know anyways? How many have you read? How much Egyptian culture are you really exposed to?

http://www.alternet.org/media/141675/the_rise_of_gonzo_porn_is_the_latest_sign_of_america's_cultural_apocalypse/

Worth a read for anyone who thinks sexual relations in the US are normalised by liberal approaches to sex.


When the whole world knows that the industry is exploitative and damaging in the medium to long term to most who participate.
- Posted by Ghulam

You're buying into an easy assumption. Just because everyone thinks it's true doesn't make it so. I've known women in the sex trade, they were in it for the fast money. After a while they decided they wanted a husband, family, and a regular place to live, so they got regular jobs.


but please don't subject us to them

oh please, don't act all shocked and appaled. You and I both know that this filth didn't come from my "imagination". These "disturbing images" can be found in films and magazines sold in virtually every local corner store in the United States!

"i find it interesting that you only mentioned the actions of female porn stars, and animals. i believe men are involved too"

Yeah, men are also victims of the industry just as they are victims of honor killings and violent rapes... but you and I both know that that it is WOMEN not men who suffer the most at the hands of the pornographers, rapists, and honor killers.


Don't take my word for it listen to Shelly Lubben.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPGD0kLqJ8c&feature=player_embedded


First time commentator here.
I'm sifting through all of this and want to address 'Massinissa,' if I may.

No offense meant, take this from an old person, but I don't think you get the point that 'sarah3' is making. Or maybe you do and a bit of pride is blocking your way?

Seriously young person (man? woman?), 'Massinissa,' the porno details aren't necessary. While we are in the know that this filthy industry exists in all corners of the earth, think again as you read over this line by 'sarah3;' "it really doesn't add anything to the discussion here."

Also, it's in bad form, reeks of bad manners, is sensationalist, etc.

Would you talk this way, to describe the porn industry, to your mother, your father, your siblings, your spouse, your friends, face to face? If the answer is no, why do you think it is okay in this forum. If the answer is yes, what part of good manners class did you miss besides all of them?

It's gross. Stop it. Grow up. And then when you do, apologize. Seriously, it's good for what ails ya.


Ghulam - i don't believe that at any point i equate conservative or traditional with misogynistic. in fact i don't even mention the former two words, so how exactly do u think i'm equating these things?

>i.e. That a womens sexual liberation makes her more womanly, and that a more assertive woman emasculates a man. I mean the whole notion is combative and destructive.

i agree these ideas are destructive. the point i was making is that it's stupid for men to feel emasculated by developments like this gigimo contraption, and yet many do, which i believe is why they are up in arms focusing solely on how it will promote promiscuity among women, rather than dealing with the underlying issues rafia speaks of. perhaps my use of the phrase "slap in the face" makes it sound like i want things to be combative, but that's not the case. i just think these men who are flipping out need a wake-up call and need to start looking inward.

>The men are all misogynists. The women are all oppressed by a humiliating and backward culture. How many Egyptians do you guys know anyways? How many have you read? How much Egyptian culture are you really exposed to?

there's misogyny in every culture, including liberal american culture, and not everyone in a particular culture is a misogynist. again, where am i saying that all the egyptian men are misogynists? and that all the women are oppressed?
i've visited egypt, my brother studied in egypt, two close friends spent a year each in egypt and both wrote novels based on their experiences, i have several egyptian friends, i've read numerous books about egypt...shall i go on? yet even with this, i don't presume to "know" egyptian culture (as i mentioned in my initial post), as i don't think u can really know a culture without spending a great deal of time immersed in it. but i am aware of many issues they have, particularly regarding the treatment of women, and it's based on my admittedly limited knowledge that i'm speaking.

massinissa - wow, you seriously think i have the nerve to Pretend to act shocked at your descriptions?

>These "disturbing images" can be found in films and magazines sold in virtually every local corner store in the United States!

i live in nyc, where there's a porn shop on every block. i read magazines and watch movies, yet i have never come across what you've described. stuff that detailed is not shoved in your face, at least certainly not in mine, it takes a little more effort to find crap like that... but if it makes you feel better to believe that what you've seen is whatever everyone has seen, so be it.


I live in nyc, where there's a porn shop on every block. ....

Wow. Having lived and worked in NYC for 21 years, I can't say I have seen any porn shops on any of those streets. Not even in Times Square anymore. Although I have seen a few seedy neighborhoods with porn shops, and there are still a few down in the 40s. But in every street? Not accurate.


way to pick out the least important statement... i walk by 3 porn shops everyday. even if they aren't on every block, i feel like i'm surrounded by them. they're not in time square anymore because that area has been cleaned up, but step to either side of times square, and there are plenty. for God's sake, this is hardly something worth discussing here. some of you commentators are great at starting pointless tangents.


sarah3: When anyone here makes any kind of a statement, the statements they make are expected to be literally true, and contextually reasonable. (Topic Drift comes with the format.) Massinissa has made some statements which have been factually and contextually suspect. Having been called to task, a very few people are whining.

The moral is: Around here, no matter what you write, if you can't defend what you're writing, don't post it.


for God's sake, this is hardly something worth discussing here. some of you commentators are great at starting pointless tangents.
>>>>

Well you mentioned it, you found it worthy of being introducted to the discussion. I found it inaccurate of all of NYC which you seemed to indicate. My condolences for the neighborhood you must live in. I don't think any of this is worthy of discussion here and it pilutes the water so to speak. Massinissa on the other hand seems quite absorbed in the topic given the thoroughness of his/her descriptions. I can do without all of it myself. But ridiculopus blanket statements need a red flag.


Wow! My goofy typos foul the water too. Yikes!


fine, you win. i thought it would be obvious that i was exaggerating and not being literal, but next time i'll be sure to put (EXAGGERATING) next to a sentence like that, or not write it at all if it seems like people will get too easily derailed by it and harp on it excessively... can we please get off this now?!


>>80% of Americans are infected with HPV...

Bull! that would mean even the majority of children have STDs. Let's not indulge in stereotypes; ugly stereotypes include all muslims are terrorists just as much as ugly stereotypes of Americans as sluts and gigilos. Please don't.


@Ghulam:
>>not centered on the liberty of the individual, but rather the welfare and harmonious co-existence of community.

I have a problem with that. Individuals are living, breathing people; communities are not alive. Therefore, this harmonious co-existence is really about ensuring the interests of some individuals by restricting the needs of other individuals. Sounds alot like the soulless capitalism and oligarchies you criticize so much.


@Massinissa: >>being spoon feed the semen of a hundred diffrent men.

You so totally watch pornos, don't you! How do you know all this? Lol.


You so totally watch pornos, don't you! How do you know all this?
- Posted by OmarG

We can afford to be generous here.

I rather doubt Massinissa has first-hand knowledge of the porn industry, which is part of the problem. My guess is she gets her information second or third hand from other people who don't know what they're talking about either.


See it for yourself. Go to zootube. As for women being spoon feed semen... those type of scenes are contained in the vast majority of films sold.


those type of scenes are contained in the vast majority of films sold.

- Posted by Massinissa

Of the porno movies you've seen in the last week, which ones had that scene? I'd like to see for myself. Where do you get your porno movies from? Nobody carries them here.


See it for yourself. Go to zootube.
- Posted by Massinissa

I just checked zootube.com. No porn. Perhaps if you could be more specific?


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