Friday, September 03, 2010 | 24 Ramadan 1431  
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Women and prayer
Female prayer leaders and Islamic feminism
Omenya Ayad's arguments in her article, “Women Leading Men's Prayer: Defying Inequality or Proving Insecurity,” are seriously flawed. (1 comment)

The big cost of big love: A scholarly analysis
The show Big Love has also added to the popular imagination about polygamous households. While the Mormon Fundamentalists were in the national spotlight, Muslims have quietly practiced polygyny in America. Barbara Hagerty writes, “No one knows how many Muslims in the U.S. live in polygamous families. But according to academics researching the issue, estimates range from 50,000 to 100,000 people” (Zero comments)

SAME-SEX MARRIAGE
A “centrist” view on same-sex marriage…if such a view exists
The debate is on! Two articles are up on Altmuslimah, each taking one of two sides on this controversial contemporary issue – should Muslim-Americans support same-sex marriage or not? (Zero comments)

Female judges
Judging Deoband’s latest fatwa on women judges
The Dar ul-Ulum at Deoband, India’s largest and most influential madrasa, recently issued a fatwa declaring that appointing a woman as a judge was ‘near haram’, or, in other words, reprehensible. (1 comment)

Your complete guide to bad burqa puns
Every time news about another hijab/niqab/burqa ban hits the press, editors rejoice: this is their chance to coin THE ultimate veil pun. Problem is, there's simply no such thing as a good veil pun. (Zero comments)

Burka rage
To Europe: Embrace your inner Mill
Whatever crushes individuality is despotism, by whatever name it may be called and whether it professes to be enforcing the will of God or the injunctions of men.- John Stuart Mill (3 comments)

The fairytales of Love
I remember the day that I first fell in love. I was thirteen, and the film Grease was playing on TV. And there he was. Cool, trendy, good looking and ready to do anything for his girl. He was of course John Travolta, and I had no doubt that he would turn up on my doorstep and ask me to marry him. Things didn’t quite work out like that - he went on to become a scientologist, and I set off on my own quest for love. (Zero comments)

Claremont Theological Seminary
The Islamo-Judeo-Christian America
This month, the Claremont School of Theology launched the University Project, which will include a graduate program for Muslim American clergy, to be added to existing Jewish and Christian divinity degree programs. (Zero comments)

The next oprah
One young woman dares to dream
Alvi’s audition video is among 5,000 other online videos. In addition to these videos, there were in-person casting calls that took place last weekend, resulting in an added number of people competing for a place as the top ten finalists who will appear on, “Your OWN Show.” (Zero comments)

Who needs Twilight? Find the Edward or Jacob in your own man.
The phenomenon of Twilight is more than just a guilty pleasure. It could be a response to fill a void in the hearts of many women. As Eclipse, part 3 in the Twilight movie series approaches, women are ready to become infatuated again with the male characters of the movie. From tweens to grandmothers, it gets the heart pumping; it gives the young hope for what to look for in a man, and for the old, it reminds them of their first loves and of their youth. Aside from the obvious craziness of vampires and werewolves, Author Stephanie Meyers reintroduces the ideas of chivalry and chastity to mainstream America. (3 comments)

Women Leading Men’s Prayer: Defying Inequality or Proving Insecurity?
Last Friday, a Canadian born Muslim author was the first to lead a mixed congregational prayer in Britain. (Zero comments)

Race-ing down the Aisle: The Numbers Speak on Interracial Marriage
Once upon a time, Fareed, a tall, dark, and handsome duke of Bangladeshi descent, and Laila, a fair damsel of Eastern European Circassian blood, decided to get married. Having finally found life partners in one another, they embodied all the metaphors and symbols that stand for wedded bliss: white doves, harps and violins, red roses, and a pumpkin that not only turned into a carriage, but remained one even after the stroke of midnight (6 comments)

Masculinity
Challenging the performance of masculinity
I always find it disturbing nowadays when I hear someone, female or male, say, “Be a man.” It is an expression that is not only commonly used in our language, but also rarely confronted (8 comments)

Umrah
Umrah: a redefining journey into the “Muslim-girl” self
I remembered struggling to make sense of what was happening. I was here, it was real. It was more real than it was before. (Zero comments)

Abuelita
In 1986 I was blessed with breath, Biracial birth bread beauty y borders, Black hair, black eyes brown pride resides birthed from my insides... (Zero comments)

How women entrepreneurs are driving business in the Middle East
Reema Bint Bandar Al Saud is an Arabian princess with an entrepreneurial streak. As president and CEO of ALFA International and AL HAMA LLC, two leading luxury retail corporations in her native Saudi Arabia, and cofounder of Yibreen, a women's day spa in Riyadh, she is eager to defy the misconception that Saudi women are unsophisticated consumers who will buy any product put in front of them. (Zero comments)

10 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person!
There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility. (Zero comments)

I disdain the niqab
I’m quite frankly nauseated of the constant hypocritical chatter about the face veil aka niqab. This cause du jour should really be sold for what it truly is and not some foolish attempt at equating dress to women’s rights. (2 comments)

Women's rights
Women’s rights gain focus in Saudi Arabia
After years of stymied efforts, reform in Saudi Arabia is focused on women's rights. (Zero comments)

The realities of death, from my grandfather’s passing
9:26pm on Friday, April 23, 2010 is a night that will remain in the forefront of my consciousness for the rest of my life. The front part of my brain devoted to memory has a visual stamp of this night, when my limbs let loose and all I could do was close my eyes for reprieve. (2 comments)

First Arab American to be Miss USA. Billionth woman to be exploited.
Today my text and email inboxes, Facebook newsfeed, and Twitterfeed are filled with the eerily but understandably similar subject line reading “First Arab-American Crowned Miss USA!” (2 comments)

What Muslims talk about over dinner
For some Muslim 20 and 30-somethings, Friday nights mean staying in, ordering pizza, and discussing how the current socio-political climate is affecting our daily lives and even futures. And while we find ourselves generally stressed about the entire situation, and fear things like getting fired for praying at work, or wearing hijab, or just having a Muslim name- sometimes we just have to step out and realize the ridiculousness of the predicament that so many of us are in. (4 comments)

Beauty
Skin Deep: Jessica Simpson’s The Price of Beauty
Anyone who’s heard of Jessica Simpson knows that she’s not portrayed in the best manner when it comes to the media. Criticisms about her weight and failed relationships are constantly on top of entertainment news. For this reason, Jessica Simpson now has her own show on VH1, called The Price of Beauty, where she travels around the world to experience different cultures and understand the true meaning of beauty. In the most recent episode, Jessica traveled to Morocco, where she became familiar with the Moroccan jalaba and tea tray dancing, among other things. (Zero comments)

Queen Rania
Queen Bees: Queen Rania on Oprah
When I heard that Queen Rania of Jordan appeared on The Oprah Show not too long ago, I was a bit skeptical. Don’t get me wrong–there isn’t much to dislike about Queen Rania. Oprah said it herself: Queen Rania is a “gorgeous mother of four” and “international fashion icon” whose mission is to “make the world a better place for women and children.” (1 comment)

Fashion
J’adore Chador: Majida Khattari’s Art
Le Monde, France 24 and Le Nouvel Observateur covered Franco-Moroccan artist Majida Khattari’s Parisian runway show/art exhibit in April. Her show was titled “VIP” (for Voile islamique parisien) and took place at Paris’ Cité Universitaire. The show was atypical of Parisian shows in its choice of subject: a series of veils. (Zero comments)

Burqa ban
Father Knows Best in Banning the Burqa?
The traditions rooted in beliefs about modesty and possession aren't going to change because someone wrote an ordinance about acceptable clothing. (Zero comments)

Feminism
Feminism in the Muslim world
I am not naive to think that this process of change will proceed quickly, or will not suffer from set backs. But change is happening - driven by courageous Muslim women and men who are fighting back against narrow, restrictive interpretations of their religion that prevent a full role for women in society (Zero comments)

Marriage
A Jewish woman’s perspective: finding love in a headcovering
My checking off the headcovering question on the matchmaker's questionnaire made the search more interesting, but not necessarily more efficient. (Zero comments)

Sexuality
A response to Nadiah Mohajir: Sex Education - is it a good thing?
Nadiah Mohajir has made a compelling case for why Muslim schools should offer sex education for their youth to avoid unfortunate misunderstandings and problems. But the question is – how can we do this? Is the syllabus really good enough to address these problems? As a teacher and a parent, I had my own concerns with the issue of sex education in Great Britain, and wonder how it can be incorporated into Islamic education. (5 comments)

Gender Equality
I’m not my mom’s guardian
My mom is an adult woman who is capable of making her own decision. I am not her guardian. I simply reject this notion. (1 comment)

Muslim Women's Stories
On career, faith, and choices: the case of American Muslim women
There is no one way to define who a Muslim woman is and what she can achieve while holding on to her identity. Much can be learned from talking to Muslim women and listening to their stories. (2 comments)

Love
Will you be my (halal) Valentine?
Why does Valentine’s Day spark such contentious debate among American Muslims across blogs and social networking sites? What underlying emotional buttons does this commercialized cultural holiday push among American Muslims? While other holidays, such as Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, generate a few tired and tepid discussions centered around the idea that “everyday should be Mother’s and Father’s Day,” Valentine’s Day, like the very concept of romantic love it celebrates, generates much more passionate responses. These debates touch on many topics including what love means or should mean to Muslims, the relationship between culture and religion, and the current state of romantic relationships among Muslims. (1 comment)

Women in Mosques
Living up to the legacy
By historical account, being a Muslim female meant being virtuous, loving, knowledgeable, and empowered by her faith. Well it’s centuries later and although we cite to the legacy of Islam, we fail to live up to it or keep the legacy alive. (1 comment)

Lahore's American International School
Bridging literacy and cultural gaps in Pakistan
In addition to bridging cultural and socioeconomic gaps, the American International School System in Pakistan acts as an experimental model and incubator by incorporating some of the education reform principles advocated by grassroots organizations, education specialists and writers, and governmental agencies like the Ministry of Education. (2 comments)

Masculinity
Islam and manhood
The infamy of Islamist terrorism over the past decade has created an image of the Muslim man as intrinsically prone to violent behavior, even if directed toward the self rather than the other. The image of the angry, flag-burning, chanting Muslim man has come to symbolize male violence. However the photos fail to explain that, firstly, the anger, in many instances, is justified, secondly, that the chants rarely spill over into to physical violence, and thirdly that violence is not exclusive to Muslim men. (5 comments)

Al-azhar
It’s not about the niqab, it’s about credibility
The question, which we all should consider now is why Al-Azhar scholars are not obeyed by the public any more? The simple and direct answer to this very complicated question is because Al-Azhar lost its credibility in the eyes of Egyptians. (5 comments)

CLOTHING
One woman’s journey toward pleasing Allah
Understanding the purpose and reasoning behind abaya is not something a Muslim girl learns the day she is born. For many, like myself, it was a slow and steady journey; one that required much research and reflection. (4 comments)

GENDER SEGREGATION
Separation not segregation: a Muslim woman writes
By instituting a physical separation as the vessel for modesty-management the responsibility for modesty is devolved to the physical partition rather than necessarily imbuing the men and women with the social graces of modesty and respect in the way that they interact with each other. (7 comments)

From the Altmuslimah Readers' Blog
Kathy Zeitoun and Muslim women as change agents
While author Dave Eggers gives readers a lot of insight into what Kathy Zeitoun faces and her incredible character and spirit, there really has been little attention given to her following the book Zeitoun's release. This lack of interest is a part of a larger problematic trend when it comes to highlighting the power of Muslim women in effecting change and being change agents in their respective societies. (6 comments)

WESTERN FEMINISM
Don’t be outraged for Muslim women
Western feminists should not assume everyone's struggle mirrors their own – their obsession with the burqa has a patronising whiff. (Zero comments)

eid prayer
Thoughts on women and the Eid prayer
It makes me really sad, that we fast the entire month, strive for excellence in behavior and worship, but come the day of Eid, we miss out on one of the most significant aspects of our religion. (Zero comments)

poetry
I am Iraq
even though I was not; born there and my ancestors; are not from Iraq; I am walking to Karbala; every day of my life (Zero comments)

German courts
An unexpected site of violence for Muslim women
Several significant cases in the past five years, though substantively unrelated, have nonetheless sent a unified, clear signal to Muslim women who would consider seeking justice through the German legal system: you will find no support or safety here. (Zero comments)

DIVORCE
Divorce among American Muslims: Statistics, challenges & solutions
“Divorce is on the rise in the Muslim community,” said Imam Mohamed Magid. “We have seen an increase in divorce from people married for a while and those married for a short time,” he said, adding that Muslims across the board are getting divorced in higher numbers. (7 comments)

WISE Conference
Heroes: Fearless and Inspiring
As a special gift for my 42nd birthday I met two awe-inspiring women in Kuala Lumpur. We were in the Malaysian capital to attend the second gathering of WISE – Women’s Islamic Initiative in Spirituality and Equality, a program aimed at improving the status of Muslim women around the world. (Zero comments)

Marriage
Asra Nomani’s big fat Muslim wedding
Whenever I encounter Asra Nomani’s works or see her in an interview, I usually wonder,“What is her point?” I don’t say this derisively. Is she trying to speak about gender inequality among the ummah? Is she trying to deal with gender norms in her own South Asian community? (2 comments)

Iranian women's movement
Free Shadi Sadr, uphold women’s rights
Shadi Sadr's arrest represents a severe blow to the Iranian women’s movement, an important element of the pro-democracy cause in Iran and one of the leading tides in the overall reformist movement. (Zero comments)

Social Pressure
Generational silence - Women continue the cycle
The same ideas of putting marriage before career are honed into the heads of each new generation of women by women of earlier generations. As long as women don’t speak out, the problem will not stop, and women will continue to follow the path defined for them by society. (Zero comments)

CLOTHING
Muslim Chic
High Fashion, Oscar Wilde once said, "is a form of ugliness so unbearable that we are compelled to alter it every six months." Western women are slaves of fashion. Muslims, meanwhile, answer first to God. (6 comments)

Family Law
Shari’ah and the Family Law Conference
We are citizens of this land and as a religious minority we need to figure out how the secular law accommodates our needs. If secular law fails to our religious requirements, then the effort should be focused towards modifying secular law to accommodate our needs and the needs of other religious minorities we are ethically, morally and socially aligned with. (1 comment)

Movie "The Mosque in Morgantown"
The price of social change
Life lessons can be richly taken from the verite style documentary, The Mosque in Morgantown, but they go way beyond the subject matter of Muslim identity. (Zero comments)

Marriage
The Doha Debates: An insider’s perspective
The Doha Debate on Muslim women's marriage rights succeeded in illustrating that marriage and female rights are complex issues that involve many aspects of culture, religion, social status, and society. (2 comments)

First ladies
Is “Michelle Obama” a new brand?
Is Michelle Obama a new brand marking every well-spoken woman in the world? Maybe those who are creating this brand assume Obama is an original Adidas, and these other women her Chinese copies. (2 comments)

Culture
A Muslimah prom
An annual graduation reception in Arizona honoring sisters graduating high school level or above gives Muslimahs a prom-like outlet and inspires younger generations to reach for the educational stars. (4 comments)

Identity
The Guardian’s First Lady faux pas
A recently published article in The Guardian (UK) focuses on the achievements of Zahra Rahnavard, who happens to be the wife of a political opponent of Iran's President Mahmoud Ahmedinijad. Once again, an extraordinary woman is defined only by her connection to her husband. (3 comments)

Female sexuality
A thin line between adoration and abomination?
Far too many of the hateful and misogynistic references in religious texts center around sex and its guilty attraction. Unsurprisingly, these appear to be reflective of a male-centric world view. (2 comments)

Journalism
The “Limit of Tolerance” of a white, privileged, non-Muslim man
If Americans–and by extension, people in Western societies–can see gender equality as a fundamental value, but never have that principle conflict with tolerance for other cultures and religions, why is it different when discussing Muslim societies? (1 comment)

From the Altmuslimah Readers' Blog
Are non-hijabis “scantily clad”?
Some social scientific studies, such as a recent study by well-known Princeton psychologist, Dr. Susan Fiske, have been misleadingly used to promote the use of the hijab. Misrepresenting these studies - acknowledged by their authors to require further investigation - does little to serve such a cause, nor does it fairly portray the reality of Muslims (and non-Muslims) who choose to dress without it. (3 comments)

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News briefs for week of August 23, 2010 - This week, A Bangladesh court ruled that people cannot be forced to wear religious clothing, a youth organization in Massachusetts urges officials for more comprehensive cultural sensitivity training of teachers, Emirati women frequent hair salons less during the month of Ramadan, and the Christian Science Monitor describes the pro-women's rights stance of one of the leaders behind the proposed Islamic center near ground zero. (August 24, 2010) (0 comments)

News briefs for week of August 16, 2010 - This week, the government of Afghanistan releases statistics on alarmingly high suicide attempt rates by Afghan women, and an Islamic theologian recounts his experience on a nudist beach that led to his conversion to Islam. (August 17, 2010) (0 comments)

Ramadan: A wife’s perspective (and a husband’s) - When my husband finally makes his way down the stairs, my frustration abates and he and I sit across from each other and share our early morning meal. We speak intermittently and keep one eye trained on the clock to ensure we finish our food by the time dawn prayers begin. Despite the sparse conversation and the hurried meal, I enjoy the feeling that we are both beginning our obligatory fasts together, as a unit. (August 13, 2010) (1 comment)

News briefs for week of August 9, 2010 - This week in the news, why pregnant women exempt from fasting still fast, Taliban responds to TIME's cover story on Aisha, Satirist claims he is not joking about his plans to open an Islamic gay bar next to Cordoba Mosque, and a young American Muslim man abstains from alcohol and dating for the month of Ramadan. (August 10, 2010) (0 comments)

News briefs for week of August 2, 2010 - Brazil offers asylum to Iranian women sentenced to death by stoning, veiled women pass through Canadian airport checkpoint without being checked, Malaysian reality show crowns its champion imam, and a few British gay Muslims find support from their local imams. (August 3, 2010) (0 comments)

News Briefs for the week of July 24, 2010 - This week, Saudi clerics seek more Muslim maids and say its okay for women to uncover their faces in the presence of burqa bans. Two French women in burqinis were refused entry into a pool, and two Muslim women in England are not allowed onto a public bus. (July 27, 2010) (0 comments)

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