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 Friday, September 19, 2014 | 24 Dhu al-Qidah 1435
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A reader once told me in an offhand way, "Of course, you'll do differently with your own daughter." She'd just finished commenting on a draft of my memoir, and her remark caught me off guard. I'd written of my engagement at eighteen to the son of our closest family friends, but I hadn't meant to criticize my traditional courtship. A critique would've implied that I had regrets, that I wished I had dated other men, that I'd now seen the light and wouldn't do the same given the chance. ()

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