Relationships

Doctors and Friendship

My friend Daanish is every rishta aunty’s dreamboat: a newly-minted emergency room (ER) physician in New York City. I gave him the rundown on the doctor at Aga Khan University Hospital (AKUH) who was fired: “Two-time Oscar winner Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy’s sister went to the ER in Karachi. The doctor sent…

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Outliers in the Search for Love

For anyone who has experienced one too many setbacks in search of love, the question “Where am I going wrong?” is a familiar one. And if you have asked this out loud, you will find no shortage of opinions that scrutinize your character or the foibles of your long-gone suitors….

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33 and Single: Faith and Finding Love

I’m 33-years-old and still single. Well, the “still” is the lamentation some Muslims in the community add when they describe my status. The Muslim culture, not unlike most others, abides by a set of expectations when it comes to women, marriage and motherhood. A woman’s identity is strongly braided with…

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The Divinity of Love

This is not a question I ever expected I’d have to answer. As a young girl, I always assumed that I would not need to sacrifice one for the other, but rather my devotion both would inevitably pull Allah and my husband nearer to one another. Just one conversation at…

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Secret marriages, spiritual abuse, and our Scholars: An introduction to “Not all Marriages are Equal”

Note: This piece is an introduction to Dr. Mohammad Fadel’s scholarly article on Islamic marriage, temporary marriage, secret marriage and polygamous marriage.   Sometimes even holy men have their wicked schemes. Over the past few months, my colleagues and I have learned from multiple sources about a set of Muslim celebrity-scholars…

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In the Arms of a Mother

I have died many times, but your breath made me alive again, Should I die thus a hundred more times I happily shall die! A child that dies in mother’s bosom, that’s how I am, my friend… -Rumi Much poetry has been written about the beauty of dying in the…

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