Dear M, A friend set me up with good practicing Muslim brother whom she knows. When we met and chatted, I was completely underwhelmed. He could barely speak English, and had a minimum wage job. To top it off, I wasn’t attracted to him either. He told my friend that…Read More
We turn to screens for nearly every decision. Where to eat. Where to vacation. Where to eat on vacation. Where to get treatment for the food poisoning you got at that restaurant where you ate on vacation. Where to write a negative review calling out the restaurant that gave you…Read More
The Urdu phrase “bus bohot hogiya hay” sends chills down Umair Khan’s spine. Roughly translated as “enough already,” it’s something Mr. Khan, 34, a Manhattan lawyer, has heard uttered by his mother, his aunt and their Pakistani-American friends on several occasions, lately with increasing exasperation. The frustration stems from Mr….Read More
Tinder and Osama bin Laden. Those are two words you wouldn’t expect in the same sentence. Cue mixture of horror and curiosity. Gawker writer Sam Biddle did a social ‘experiment’ on Tinder. He used an unconventional source for his flirtatious remarks – Osama bin Laden’s ‘love letter’ to one of…Read More
Rushing into a physical relationship before establishing social commitment is harmful on a personal and societal level. A sad reality is that the online dating industry is built on this shadiness for purely economic reasons. A sadder reality is that well-intentioned people are sucked into it. It’s a downward spiral…Read More
Yelli is a free Tinder-like app for Android and iOS smartphones, created by three New York-based Muslim millennials who wanted to help connect single Muslims in a fun and practical way. The topic of online marriage remains sensitive and controversial, since the assumption in traditional Muslim society is that people will…Read More
If you’re a single Muslim in North America, you know the thirst is real. Well, you can finally leave the ISNA hotel lobby. (Seriously, it’s past 5 a.m.) Vacate that seat at the matrimonial speed-dating table where your parents are cheering you on from the sidelines. You can stop shaking…Read More
I recently decided to step back from actively searching for someone to marry. I’m serious and interested, but aspects of the Muslim matchmaking process are strange for me.
I lost my beloved wife, Joan, just over a year ago. The prospect of starting over with someone new after sixteen years of marriage is daunting. I am a forty-year-old white American male, but I am also Muslim.
Young American-Muslims find themselves walking the tight rope between conservative Muslim traditions and liberal American culture. Because of this, Gen X and Gen Y Muslims are well-positioned to pave the way for change. Nearly all have “dated” vicariously through non-Muslim friends. Simultaneously many take their faith seriously and have a sincere desire to propagate it.Read More