Finding a life partner is often a confusing and uncertain process, particularly for Muslim Americans. We have few models to follow, since many of our parents married under vastly different circumstances, and our values regarding courtship differ from those of our larger society. One of the many symptoms of our struggle is the growing instances of young Muslims divorcing within a year or even within months of getting married. How do we find the balance between knowing someone well enough and staying true to our personal values and boundaries?