colorism

Color-coded confessions: Background shades of the marriage process

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“He is educated, Mashallah …a lawyer, and the age difference is just right. I talked to his mother, too. She was absolutely delightful, she agreed with me on everything! She is sending his picture through the e-mail right now.” Barely able to contain her excitement, my mother grabs her reading glasses and positions herself before the monitor. It is the Moment of Truth.

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A shade less: Not fair and lovely

I remember when my second daughter was born with darker skin color than the rest of the family and I was made to feel as a mother that she was somehow less than my other daughter, less lucky, less beautiful, less. As if she didn’t deserve to wear certain colors,…

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Lighter, Brighter but not Better

Following on the heels of Mindy Kaling’s black-and-white Elle cover controversy is Lupita Nyong’o’s Vanity Fair cover debate. Within minutes of these two images being released, one Twitter user after another began to point out that these fashion magazines had lightened the skin color of their cover girls.

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The fair and lovely Bitstrips

Some love them, some hate them, while others, the originals, hate how their coveted Bitstrips app is being overrun and overused, causing Facebook’s most downloaded app’s servers to sporadically crash.

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Review: ‘The Mindy Project’

Hilarious, flirty, and honest, Mindy Kaling’s “The Mindy Project” playfully relays the plight of the single overachieving woman’s quest for love and personal growth. Single Muslim American ladies of South Asian descent are bound to find the show funny and refreshingly close to home.

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The Fair & Lovely standard

The latest Bollywood song blared from the speakers and the crowd at my sister’s wedding cheered in delight. As I laughed with my friends and shimmied my hips in time to the music, I was unaware that a family friend’s son was observing me from across the room. He had attended the event in order to “take a look at me” for a possible rishta (proposal). I didn’t make the cut, however. I wasn’t gori (fair) enough.

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