altMuslimah (“altM”) will be celebrating its 6th birthday this March, on International Women’s Day. For six years, we’ve been providing cutting edge commentary on a variety of issues pertinent to gender-and-Islam, starting and normalizing discussions the community was previously afraid to broach. As we begin our 7th year, we…
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If you’re a single Muslim in North America, you know the thirst is real. Well, you can finally leave the ISNA hotel lobby. (Seriously, it’s past 5 a.m.) Vacate that seat at the matrimonial speed-dating table where your parents are cheering you on from the sidelines. You can stop shaking…
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Every now and then we come across one of these articles – readers are given a glimpse into the women of [insert name of foreign country] and told that times sure are a’changin – the women just don’t want to get married! They’re choosing instead to get an education…
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Every wedding is your mom’s big chance to find someone for you, if the other moms don’t get to all the good ones first.
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From day one, my husband had done almost everything in his power to please me in every way. He was generous, compassionate, and honest to a fault. I loved him dearly and was eager to make him as happy as he made me; I wanted there to be no gap…
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Question #1 Dear Salma, I have a teenage daughter and am concerned about how to explain interfaith marriage to her. We have a growing number of Muslims in our community–both men and women–marrying outside of Islam. She and I will talk about these sorts of things and I’ve explained to…
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A reader once told me in an offhand way, “Of course, you’ll do differently with your own daughter.” She’d just finished commenting on a draft of my memoir, and her remark caught me off guard. I’d written of my engagement at eighteen to the son of our closest family friends, but I hadn’t meant to criticize my traditional courtship. A critique would’ve implied that I had regrets, that I wished I had dated other men, that I’d now seen the light and wouldn’t do the same given the chance.
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Ask Salma addresses sibling interactions and interfaith relationships.
Dr. Farber bounced a black, leather whip in her palm when she said the ladies in our classroom would find Taoist sexual philosophy especially interesting. Taoist men, she explained, trained themselves to last.
“That’s why a Taoist man is hard to find.”
The room broke into an easy laughter. My lips went tight. Last at what?
After class the curly-haired blonde guy that sat two rows over motioned me to his desk. He introduced himself as Matt and the woman standing next to him as Jen and said, “We’re getting a study group together. Interested?”
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In today’s AskM column, M responds to one woman about how to deal with her mother-in-law, and another about her racially-conscious suitor.
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